Do you have 7 to 13minutes?
Then you’ve got enough time to get it on.
It is widely accepted and a well known fact that men easily feel for sex as compared to women.
However, sex is a necessity in marriage but somehow, it is now also being considered a ‘necessity’ in relati
Wondering what some of those excuses may be?
Here are some excuses you’re probably making when you are not in the mood and also ways on how to stop selling yourself short on satisfaction.
I am too tired
It’s common to lack sexual energy when your head hits the pillow.
"If the first time you think about being intimate is when you crawl into bed, it’s like starting a cold engine," explains Stella Resnick, PhD, a clinical psychologist.
Resnick advises that one should take a break to allow yourself fantasize, or give your husband a passionate kiss when you get home from work.
You’ll feel less spent and more psyched for sex when you hit the sack.
I have a headache
If it’s a true headache and not code for "I just don’t feel like doing it", then actually participating in the lovemaking despite the headache could actually make you feel better.
Research has shown that good, satisfying sex has analgesic (pain killer) properties meaning, it can make your throbbing stop.
There is however a ‘but’.
This can’t be an obligatory, ‘just-lie-there sex.’ According to Stella Resnick, "It’s the pleasure aspect that’s the pain reliever."
You don’t have to climax, but if you do, the resulting drug cocktail your brain releases along with it can add up to even greater pain relief.
Who needs asprin or paracetamol?
I am not in the mood
While men get an erection practically at will, women sometimes need a little extra loving.
So this excuse is acceptable but you and your partner could together get yourself into the mood of making love.
So when you are feeling apathetic about sex, try stripping down to nothing and just lie down together, cuddling and pressing your bodies against each other.
Resnick explains that “the proximity and skin-on-skin contact release pheromones that trigger desire.”
A few minutes of neck-nuzzling will flip your switch
I don’t have time
We all have a zillion things going on in our lives.
But all you need is a few minutes to squeeze sex into your schedule.
All this boils down to prioritizing.
If doing the ‘deed’ isn’t high on your to-do list, it will always get bumped for seemingly more pressing pursuits.
I’m currently not loving my body
Having a bad body-image day?
Sex with your partner can actually have a positive effect on your confidence.
To jump-start feeling sexy, Resnick suggests “slipping on something that makes you feel hot, whether it’s lingerie or a killer pair of heels.”
During the act, refocus your attention on how your body feels instead of how it looks.
Also tune in to how much he’s admiring what your body can do!